Any tips for this Sunday? Helping out my local club doing a u13 cup game...
1. Unless you're absolutely sure of the changing arrangements, go changed. The last thing you need is to be changing in an area shared with 12 year olds - you could end up in very deep water!
2. Make sure you're aware of the variations (25 minutes each way, scrum must not be pushed more than 1.5 metres, not more than 45 degree rotation and same side put in if it does go 45 degrees. Scrum half offside line for the non-winning SH is the tunnel. No lifting in the line out. No squeeze ball.
No extra time (except injury time) under any circumstances. (As it's a cup game, there's also likely to be a rule that the score difference must not exceed 50 points and the game is over if it does. If it does end in a draw,
NO EXTRA TIME. Hopefully, the coaches will be aware of this but as they might be new to cup matches and might be ex-footballers, they might think there's a 10-min each way or "golden try" stage. There is NOT. Most likely the competition rules award an away win for drawn matches, but this is
NOT YOUR PROBLEM. You just stop the game when the ball goes dead at the end of the second half and let the organisers sort it out.)
3. Be aware of the myths like "can't take the second one quick", "can't hand off to the face at U13", "can't do a quick throw in at U13" and, of course, "he's got to let him up" and "double movement". All of those are nonsense.
4. Kids at this age are unlikely to be cheating deliberately so keep your cards in your pocket for repeated offences.
5. Even though they won't be cheating on purpose, they're beyond the stage where they need lengthy explanations of your decisions. Just whistle properly (most beginner refs "apologise" for blowing the whistle - it needs to be heard by the furthest away child on the pitch and parent at the side line) and give a strong primary signal. They'll be grateful if you do what you've been trained to do (saying something like "Blue not rolling away") and then what they really want to know is just what you wanted to know when you played - "are we getting back 10 or are they?" Secondary signals are great if you can remember them, but most playing and watching don't know what they are so don't worry if you don't fit them in (or forget).
6. Watch for and penalise high tackles (or make it very clear you are playing advantage (a SHOUT of "High tackle, Advantage Red). You're likely to see quite a few of them as skill levels and fitness are likely to be low and as they get tired the tackles become lazy and higher. Don't be afraid of giving a Penalty Try if there's a high tackle close to the line and no other covering defence (remember you don't have to card an offender when giving a PT and, at this age, it's almost certainly not necessary).
And, of course, try to enjoy it!