The next time you visit

[crossref]

Scenario: the last time you reffed this team , frankly you didn't have a great game. No one died and the right team won, but overall it wasn't a happy afternoon

Qu: the next time you turn up to ref them , a few months later do you acknowledge all that ..or just breeze on regardless, as if it never happened?

(Asking for a friend )

 

[Dickie E]

What do you have in mind with "acknowledge all that"?

 

[Marc Wakeham]

Just get on with the game.

 

[Decorily]

Onwards and upwards!

 

[tim White]

Nothing you can do about last time. Hopefully you will have learned something about the team and particular players, hopefully they will have learned something about you; use that and move on.

 

[Mipper]

Scenario: the last time you reffed this team , frankly you didn't have a great game. No one died and the right team won, but overall it wasn't a happy afternoon

Qu: the next time you turn up to ref them , a few months later do you acknowledge all that ..or just breeze on regardless, as if it never happened?

(Asking for a friend )

Definitely breeze on regardless.
Past is the past. Hopefully they have learnt from last time and will be better.

 

[RemainingInTheGame]

I like to try and move on immediately after I've had a difficult game.

What's done is done.

Next time I have the team I ask the coach/captain etc if they have any questions in the pre match briefing and we all start with a blank sheet of paper.

Honestly, everyone will just move on.

If you have multiple issues in games with a team, then have a think, otherwise, don't sweat it.

 

[didds]

i think you will find that was your twin brother that your parents bizarrely gave the same name as yourself to

 

[Dickie E]

Scenario: the last time you reffed this team , frankly you didn't have a great game. No one died and the right team won, but overall it wasn't a happy afternoon

Qu: the next time you turn up to ref them , a few months later do you acknowledge all that ..or just breeze on regardless, as if it never happened?

(Asking for a friend )

Just to add some nuance. What if the team are happy to remind you ... mutters of "ooh, we've got this wanker again" and less than a warm welcome. Maybe you've previously put in a complaint about the team and they know it.
How uncomfortable would it have to get before you took some action?

 

[Decorily]

Just to add some nuance. What if the team are happy to remind you ... mutters of "ooh, we've got this wanker again" and less than a warm welcome. Maybe you've previously put in a complaint about the team and they know it.
How uncomfortable would it have to get before took some action?

Onwards and upwards 2!

 

[SimonSmith]

Move on.

Do this long enough, and it comes up. It also comes up that someone will mention the previous game. My answer was - because it was true - "mmm. Not sure anyone had a particularly good afternoon then. Let's hope we all do better"

 

[smeagol]

Move on.

Do this long enough, and it comes up. It also comes up that someone will mention the previous game. My answer was - because it was true - "mmm. Not sure anyone had a particularly good afternoon then. Let's hope we all do better"

Seconding this.

If it comes up, offer to bury the hatchet. If the second time isn’t the charm, ask around if other refs have had similar experiences and tailor future behavior accordingly.

 

[Dickie E]

Move on.

Do this long enough, and it comes up. It also comes up that someone will mention the previous game. My answer was - because it was true - "mmm. Not sure anyone had a particularly good afternoon then. Let's hope we all do better"

"Don't know about the rest of us, ref, but you certainly didn't". Guffaws from those in earshot

 

[SimonSmith]

"Don't know about the rest of us, ref, but you certainly didn't". Guffaws from those in earshot

You're right - I shouldn't have penalized you for that late tackle.
*pregnant pause*
Given it was the only tackle you made all afternoon.

That got me a pint.

 

[Flish]

I have this today, two teams I had in two different cup finals last season, one was possibly the best game I’ve had, the other the worst, in reflecting both of those came down to players actions and the poor game I parked as one of those games where I tried and they didn’t want to listen (cup final excitement I guess)

I always try to leave things on the pitch though, I’ve thought about it but my aim is to reset and ref whatever’s in front of of me today

 

[Shelflife]

You have to just move on, otherwise it will get into your head and you'll start second guessing your calls.

I had this a few seasons ago, I had two games with the same team that were difficult games that they lost narrowly. Of course it was my fault and they let their displeasure be known on both occasions.

Three weeks later I was appointed to them again for an away game for them, driving to the game I was letting it play around in my head and I knew it was getting to me.

I got to the ground and got my shit together, its just another game and I'm going to treat them as if Id never seen them before but keep a tight rein on the game.

20mins into the game I call a dubious (to team Dublin's mind) knock on. As they pack down the Dublin prop moans about the decision and says aahh sure you hate Dublin anyway. i looked him straight in the eye and said excuse me I don't hate Dublin, I just hate you ! He looks at me a starts roaring laughing.

Bottom line, don't over analyze previous games, next time your there resolve to ref your normal game to the best of your ability, that s all anyone can ask of you.

 

[SimonSmith]

One of the beauties of where I live is that the competition is 4 teams at most, and usually 3.

I am therefore guaranteed to see one of the teams that I saw last weekend.

 

[Marc Wakeham]

One of the beauties of where I live is that the competition is 4 teams at most, and usually 3.

I am therefore guaranteed to see one of the teams that I saw last weekend.

I'd really hate that. Variety is the spice of life!

 

[SimonSmith]

I'd really hate that. Variety is the spice of life!

It can get challenging. Same players, same sh - stuff on a regular cycle.

 

[Dickie E]

It can get challenging. Same players, same sh - stuff on a regular cycle.

do you ever say stuff like "now remember what we spoke about last week" or "your #7 was lucky to avoid a card last week so I'll be watching him"? Or do you just forget & reset?