Ovey
Referees in England
I had a game on saturday (Yellow 2nds v Black 3rds) which made me question why I give up my time to give two teams a game of rugby. I could have been at home doing something nice with my family instead!
All seemed fine pre-match and probably for about 5 minutes into it - then the comments started. Black seemed to have a grievance about yellow coming into rucks "head first" and them being "dangerous". It came through the skipper first, and I agreed to watch out for it. After looking, I didn't see it that way and allowed play to carry on as was.
Then the grumblings started, and the under-the-breath comments. At first I let it slide, then I started to warn, then penalise it, and the worst of it seemed to die down. The two skippers were trying to quosh it by talking to their players and apologising to me, but it still seemed to go on at various times throughout the match.
I then made a mistake of letting a yellow quick tap go, despite a black player distracting me with some inane complaint, which led to a yellow try. I allowed it, then thought about it but it was too late (I apologised the the black skipper later).
The next thing was black FR complaining that yellow FR were standing up in the scrums (there was a height mis-match but there was only one scrum all afternoon where yellow LHP stood up and was pinged for it).
After the match the black coach came up to me to complain about the number of substitutes that yellow had used (more than 5). I stated that as the actual inter-changes were below the 8 allowed, if he had a complaint about the number of substitues used he should go to the league to complain. At that point he turned on his heel and stormed off!
The beauty of it all was that a fellow society ref (who regularly watches the yellows at home) had given me a mic so he could listen to me for mutual benefit, and he stated that he agreed with me in all decisions, and backed up my POV for everything stated above. He told me that I'd handled the game well and should be easily able to cope at a couple of levels higher (in his opinion). The only problem he had with me was that I'd apologised to the skipper for my mistake during the game not after it!
But it has just soured my seasons experience, which had been a really good season up until that point.
All seemed fine pre-match and probably for about 5 minutes into it - then the comments started. Black seemed to have a grievance about yellow coming into rucks "head first" and them being "dangerous". It came through the skipper first, and I agreed to watch out for it. After looking, I didn't see it that way and allowed play to carry on as was.
Then the grumblings started, and the under-the-breath comments. At first I let it slide, then I started to warn, then penalise it, and the worst of it seemed to die down. The two skippers were trying to quosh it by talking to their players and apologising to me, but it still seemed to go on at various times throughout the match.
I then made a mistake of letting a yellow quick tap go, despite a black player distracting me with some inane complaint, which led to a yellow try. I allowed it, then thought about it but it was too late (I apologised the the black skipper later).
The next thing was black FR complaining that yellow FR were standing up in the scrums (there was a height mis-match but there was only one scrum all afternoon where yellow LHP stood up and was pinged for it).
After the match the black coach came up to me to complain about the number of substitutes that yellow had used (more than 5). I stated that as the actual inter-changes were below the 8 allowed, if he had a complaint about the number of substitues used he should go to the league to complain. At that point he turned on his heel and stormed off!
The beauty of it all was that a fellow society ref (who regularly watches the yellows at home) had given me a mic so he could listen to me for mutual benefit, and he stated that he agreed with me in all decisions, and backed up my POV for everything stated above. He told me that I'd handled the game well and should be easily able to cope at a couple of levels higher (in his opinion). The only problem he had with me was that I'd apologised to the skipper for my mistake during the game not after it!
But it has just soured my seasons experience, which had been a really good season up until that point.