"Can I leave it to you two to put this behind us?" and which point I have usually got a hand shake between them.
That's fine, they decide themselves without prompting.
"Can I leave it to you two to put this behind us?" and which point I have usually got a hand shake between them.
I do not believe that a handshake in itself defuses the situation, and that is particularly true if the handshake is forced.
... It was never suggested that it works "in itself" !
I think the man's got a point.... Players are encouraged [nay..invited] to shake hands .... [Humour helps -"try to shake hands without snarling like a angry badger who's been dumped by his girlfriend"] - or something similar.... you get them smiling-you've won !!
There was a rumor abut a Senior Referee in Hampshire who made two adult players skip around the field holding hands.
Shaking hands? Solves nothing that a well managed conflict resolution process (or good old fashioned bollocking) can't. Maybe it was just me, but on the odd occasion I had to do the handshake, my thought process was "I'll be getting you later pal", not "gosh, i'm glad that's all settled now"
I think the man's got a point.[/QUOTE
thanks taff
You have no authority to imposes your own personal idea that the players should shake hands
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hvhhd36fxPw&playnext=1&list=PL5F68105805D3C877&feature=results_video
Only 13 Blue players joined in the grapplefest.... but our Nigel ..... insists all 15 Blue players come and listen to his general bollocking ......did he have the authority to impose his idea that they should come forward & listen ? probably not [they'd not been involved] .......but he did
does it matter? - if the outcome is achieved , the 'bigger picture' is the reward , is it not?
"I don't know what started that, but it ends now. Clear?" The two shook hands and got on with the game.
Refusals are seen as further evidence of disrespect to sir :nono:
2] referee didn't deal with the first instance of 'handbags' with a 'handshake' , both players were still 'posturing and verbalising at each other as the match was continued.
Anyone guess what followed ??
Maybe it was just me, but on the odd occasion I had to do the handshake, my thought process was "I'll be getting you later pal", not "gosh, i'm glad that's all settled now"
Isn't all diffusion 'forced'? commencing with 'propulsion of a Co2 thru a thunderer'
"Can I leave it to you two to put this behind us?" and which point I have usually got a hand shake between them.
I do not believe that a handshake in itself defuses the situation, and that is particularly true if the handshake is forced.
I don't think anyone would disagree with that.
But Didds, some children need prompting to say "please" and "thank you". They're kids ... and some have very few social skills; that doesn't make them bad. In some instances I can see a benefit, especially if combined with some humour as Browner suggested - just to difuse a situation and where a bit of mutual saving pride was needed.So did YOU instigate that handshake - or the players independently and voluntarily?
Why would prompting a kid to act like an adult be patronising? In fact it would probably make them feel more grown-up.so why then and not in seniors? we wouldn't be patronising children would we?
But Didds, some children need prompting to say "please" and "thank you". They're kids ... and some have very few social skills; that doesn't make them bad.
The evidence of this thread anmd certainly the coaching thread I instigated this enquiry from, would suggest otherwise. There are clearly _some_ (not many here to be fair) that feel that a handshake will somehow magically banish all thoughts of dislike and "hatred".
didds
Only 13 Blue players joined in the grapplefest.... but our Nigel ..... insists all 15 Blue players come and listen to his general bollocking ......did he have the authority to impose his idea that they should come forward & listen ? probably not [they'd not been involved] .......but he did