The "ref" is likely to be dad with a whistle that might have been lent to him on the day.
people frequently say things like this on the site, sniffiliy, but I fear its an impression born of heasay and supposition. It's not my experience.
yes, he may well be a dad, just as the coach, the assistant coach, the manager and shirt-washer, the tour organiser and the chief fundraiser of the age group are also likely to be dads, or mums, that's the way rugby works
but as well as being a dad the average midi ref may also be an ex-player, an ex coach or even - quite often - on saturday he may a society ref.
if he isn't a society ref by midi rugby he will very likely have done ELRA (at my club he certainly would have) and he would be taking his referee responsibility seriously. Every ref has to have a first game, but if this is a tournament it's extremely unlikely that this is it, so he will have had expereince of abusive coaches and parents, and kids both surprisibly skillful and surprisingly clueless.
At tournament he will know the age group rules , and be much better at communicatuing with the kids than the experience society ref who we will discover has been brought in as celeb to ref the final, who wsn't at the ref briefing (too important) and who will make one or specific age-group related clangers (because he's never reffed U11 for years and the rules have changed or else he forgot them) and will be taken for a ride by the players when he prefers to explain rather than penalise, under the mistake impression that the kids don't know what they are doing.
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that's enough. but honestly, you society refs! age groups refs are not as clueless as you guys think, and on the other side of the fence I have seen some pretty clueless society refs in my time, who give every impression of picking up a whistle that morning.